Mondays with Marlene

In my opinion ...

Sexy, Sexier, Sexiest

There used to be a bunch of jokes making the rounds about foreplay. They were usually pretty crass and we all laughed, especially the women, because often they seemed like a page out of our lives. You know – that old “slam bam thank you ma’am” thing. As we grow older, foreplay is often as much fun and enjoyable as intercourse, and if we’re living with chronic pain, there are times it’s the only way to go. So how do we keep this important part of our relationships alive and well? Good question.

Because of the physical demands intercourse puts on our bodies, it may be time to check out the lay of the land, so to speak. Let’s do what we always wanted to do – try something different; be adventuresome. Try spending more time on foreplay and less on actual intercourse. In other words,” kill the slam bam thank you ma’am” approach to sex. Spending time arousing your partner and giving him/her pleasure while in a comfortable position, your intimate time together can last longer and actually be satisfying. By recognizing that our minds and bodies are linked, we can increase the sexual pleasure we experience through both physical and cognitive stimulation. It sure sounds like fun to me and I know your partner will agree.

There’s lots more to talk about and I’ll be doing that in future columns. In the meantime, my advice to you is practice, practice, practice.